get an rbc, mempho, dph swords, totem of the void, gauntlets of nobility, and human fey legs. work from that
you want 36 lmc, 60 dci (you can drop this to 45 dci if you want, but you wont be able to rely on divine fury as much, so you'd want ssi and stam leech on sword), 35 hci (45 if you're not using 60+ dci). these are the primary stats for a paladin, then fc, then +dex, then +di
drop bushido to 0. set up hotkeys for bandage self, consecrate wep, divine fury, double strike, armor ignore, chiv heal self, chiv cure self, and chiv remove curse self
it's funny actually cos i was sparring a bit with this red the other day, and he was pissed off and said to me like "yeah but you only use 1 button to attack" and i thought that's kinda true, but i use 5 buttons to heal.
with paladin your damage is kind of a given once you have your buffs on and you're hitting double strike/ai at every opportunity, so you are free to concentrate fully on defense.
sampire is the opposite, you concentrate on attack, and your defense is fed by that. the beauty of a shield warrior is that your healing and your damage are completely disconnected, stopping one will do nothing to stop the other